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Regrets of a 46-Year-Old

This is the best confession I've ever read. It's a must-read for all.

Rahul Swami
Rahul Swami
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Regrets of a 46-Year-Old
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I found this confession on Reddit. It's one of the most honest confessions I've ever read. I think we can learn a lot from other people's regrets and mistakes. Just go through it and decide how you want to spend the rest of your life…



About me. I'm a 46-year-old. I have lived my whole life the opposite of how I wanted. All my dreams and my passions are gone.

  • Today I found out that my wife has been cheating on me for the past 10 years.
  • My son feels nothing for me.
  • I realised I missed my father's funeral FOR NOTHING.

If my younger self had met me today, I would have punched myself in the face.




Now, I understand where it all went wrong.

After returning home from work, my routine consisted of having dinner, preparing for the next day's work, and going to bed at 10 pm. I would then wake up at 6 am the following day.

“Oh God, I can't remember the last time I made love to my wife.”

I spent most of my time at the office.

Now, my wife admitted to cheating on me for the last 10 years. — Ten years. That seems like a long time, but I can't comprehend it. She says it's because I've changed; I'm not the person I used to be.

What have I been doing in the last 10 years?

— Outside of work, I really can't say anything.

Not being a proper husband. Not being ME.

Who am I? What happened to me?

I didn't even ask for a divorce, yell at her, or cry. I felt NOTHING. — Now, I can feel a tear as I write this, not because my wife has been cheating on me, but because I am now realizing that I have been lonely and dying inside.

My father passed away ten years ago.

— I remember receiving calls from Mom, telling me he was getting sicker and sicker. I was getting busier and busier, on the verge of a big promotion. I kept putting off my visit, hoping in my mind that he would hold on. He died, and I got my promotion.

— When he died, I told myself that it didn't matter that I hadn't seen him. I rationalized that since he was dead, it wouldn't matter anyway.

One of my biggest mistakes was rationalizing everything and making excuses to put things off.

And now, finally, I realize that all these excuses and procrastination lead to one thing: ————————— "NOTHING".

❌ I regret letting my job take over my life.

❌ I regret being an awful husband.

❌ I regret not being emotionally available for my son. Being a damn emotionless wallet.

If you're reading this and you have your whole life ahead of you,

  1. Please don't procrastinate.
  2. DO NOT forget your family.
  3. Do NOT waste your life. Do not be like me.

Source: Reddit Link Here. — This is a simplified edited version!

✒️ Swamoney Thought:

I hope you won't make the same mistakes as he did...

Mistake 1: Failing to spend meaningful quality time with the spouse.

Mistake 2: Not allocating sufficient time with kids during the magic years.

Mistake 3: Neglecting parents in their final years.

"Investing quality time with your family is crucial. If you're not doing so, it's high time to prioritize it. Remember, nobody on their deathbed ever said, I wish I had spent more time at the office."

Read this article again and introspect!

Ultimately, it's your life, and the choice is always yours.

⚖️ 'Right' Life Balance

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